I’ve received some emails lately from readers who ask when I weigh, how often I weigh, what time of day do I weigh, etc. 🙂 My responses have probably left them thinking “She’s not kidding: she really is a Hot Mess.” Let me explain…
I get on the scale almost every day. I’m the kind of person who needs to know what’s going on at the start of every day. It’s a jumping off point for me and it keeps me honest with myself. If I get on the scale and it shows my current weight, then I’m good. If it shows an extra pound or two, I make note of it…but I don’t let it bother me. I’m a woman and the scale naturally fluctuates. Whether you believe in God, evolution, Mother Nature, or some other power of creation…whoever or whatever it was that created the female body sure had a hell of a sense of humor. The joke is on us, ladies…especially with that whole water retention thang.
Fitness gurus and doctors galore will tell you not to get on the scale more than once a week. Some say once a month. As always, I’m here to shout “BULLSHIT!” at the top of my lungs. I say do what you need to do and ignore the experts – in this instance, anyway. I have never understood why I should only get on the scale once a week. Getting on the scale every day (again, with a healthy outlook about it) makes me look the devil in the face every day. It keeps me honest with the extra helping of chips & salsa I had…or the fact that I didn’t eat a proper dinner because I munched out all night. Why would I want to wait until scale day to find out that the extra time I did on the treadmill wasn’t enough to turn that around?
I do recommend, however, if you get on the scale every day…or if you’re thinking of getting on the scale every day…that you do some soul searching as to what your true relationship is with Mr. Scale .
Here it is, quick & dirty: if you can’t handle the number on the scale, don’t get on it. If you’re the kind of person (and I was, too) who will do everything right and then beat themselves up because the scale doesn’t move…don’t get on it.
The biggest reason to avoid Mr. Scale: If you are going to end up feeling worse about yourself than you already do, don’t get on it. DON’T!!! It’s not worth it. Think about it: you’re embarking on a major life change, trying to live a healthy life, making sacrifices and forcing yourself out of your comfort zone…why on Earth would you want to make yourself feel bad right before you take on such an enormous task? There’s always time to get on the scale later…don’t set yourself up to fail.
Now, there are some situations where you need to get on it. If you’re just starting out, you need to find out where you are. You need to weigh and measure and then lock that shit up somewhere if you can’t handle it. If you had a midnight snack of cake batter ice cream & cheerios, get your butt on it. You know what you did and you know it’s not gonna be pretty. Put your big girl panties on and get on the scale. Look that number hard in the fact. Know it. Feel it. Understand that you own full responsibility for putting that number on that scale. Promise yourself you will not do it again. Tell yourself you’re sorry. Do not attack yourself or play head games with yourself.
Grab the reigns and don’t let go. It takes balls to face up to something unpleasant. Give yourself credit. Face it, know it, understand it, and then put it away. Don’t let it control you – you control it. Sit down and make a plan. Think back to all the mistakes you’ve made in the past and find ways around them. Don’t make those mistakes again. Once you’ve dealt with the bad behavior that got you here, kick it to the curb. It has no business here anymore. In fact, one of my favorite sayings is perfect here:
Deal with it and keep on stepping. We all know what happens when we throw out hands up and give up. We reach for the Reeses and it’s all over. Just one time…don’t do it. Just one time, keep moving ahead. Keep going. Don’t take a break…just keep moving.
If you’re going to face the scale, do it with a level head and a solid plan to protect yourself from negativity or stay away from it. As a general rule, we place way too much importance on what the scale says. We end up feeling terrible about ourselves and we keep going back for more. This is crazy behavior! There was a time not too long ago when I asked Hot Mess Hubby to hide it from me because I knew I couldn’t resist the impulse to get on it and I played such horrible head games with myself when weighed myself. I was so crazy in my head that even after a solid week of eating super healthy and working out, if I got on the scale and it didn’t budge I would immediately question all my hard work.
I only did 20 minutes on the treadmill on Tuesday instead of 30. I’m so weak!
I knew I should have had 8 glasses of water yesterday…I only had 4. This is all my fault.
Am I sure I worked out yesterday? I wasn’t really pushing the envelope…
It seems unfair, but sometimes even if you are eating less, eating healthy, and moving more…the scale doesn’t budge. Your only real choice is to just keep going. Trust in the fact that science is not going to fail you. Keep doing what you’re doing. It will move.
The scale is a tool for you to use. It doesn’t own you, it doesn’t have super powers. So if you allow it to have an effect on your mood, you need to just kick it under the bed and leave it there until you come to your senses.
Make sure you’re making the decision to weigh or not to weigh based on your needs alone. Don’t listen to what anyone else things you should do. Listen to your gut.
The day will come when you have the courage to deal with what Mr. Scale says. You’ll know when that is – and when you do come out to confront him, Mr. Scale will be your bitch. Don’t shy away from this. Grab this bull by the horns and ride him out…it’s cardio. 🙂